15 Mistakes You Need To Make While Still In Your 20’s

Being in the ’20s means you are in the best period of your life, independent yet not burdened with the wights of life, happy in a childish and ignorant way. With this being said this is the best period to experiment life and test the limits, to get the taste of what being young, free and reckless means, so don’t miss the opportunity to make the following mistakes!

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1.Fall in love with an emotionally unavailable person

Being heartbroken is not nice, but the rush you get when you are doing something that you know is wrong cannot be replaced. Sometimes you need to take the leap of faith and do the unthinkable, fall in love with a person who is not available to you. It is important to get this out of your system and recognize the pattern when you will stumble upon it again.

 2. Try out all of your sexual fantasies

YES, it is allowed, it is OK and it is normal. We all have fantasies and we all want to make them happen, even if we would realize they weren’t that great after all. Don’t want to meet that special someone to ask him or her for a threesome. Do whatever you feel like doing, it is your moment.

3. Join Tinder or any other online dating app

Everything is online nowadays and online dating is the new trend, so grab that phone, make that awesome picture and click join. You will be surprised by the newly discovered ground. Who knows maybe you will find your soulmate there or just the next great date.

4. Go out on blind dates

Meghan Markle met Prince Henry on a blind date set by one of her friends if that isn’t reason enough for you to try it out, I don’t know what is. Sometimes going out with people whom you would never actually date brings more benefits than you can think, most likely you will not become a duchess any time soon, but it is a great way to experiment with what you like and what you don’t.

5. Make love to a stranger in a foreign country

This one might not be for the weak ones, but is definitely one of the greatest fantasies out there. To know you will never meet again and you will be able to enjoy it in an egoistic way. You only live once, so make sure you do it at full speed.

6. Swim naked in the sea

If you are brave enough you will do it during the day, if not you can try it at night. Be prepared to have your clothes stolen and do the walk of shame. Yet you will have as much adrenaline in your veins to do it proudly.

7. Wear inappropriate clothing

Yep, this is the time to wear all the clothes that would give your grandparents a heart attack. You can pull off any type of outfit you can think of and still be considered young and reckless.

8. Get a crappy job

Sooner or later you need to take that step and get your first job. Some people might think you need to be responsible and make that job a great one and stay there until your retirement, but that is not the case. The first job should be as crappy as possible, since you want to see how money is made and to respect those who do it, no matter what their status is.

9. Call in sick and go on a road-trip

There is no better feeling than the one you get when you do something bad and you don’t get caught. So give the actor in you a try and aim for a little white lie, then hit the road with the music on. Just make sure you don’t put it on Facebook for your boss to see it.

10. Write at least one resignation letter

You should not be accepted in the 30s if you’ve never written a resignation letter. It is one of the best lessons out there, so if you want to quit your job grab a pen and pencil and start writing, you don’t need to be rude, I strongly recommend you not to, yet you need to state the truth.

11. Get drunk

Losing control, getting drunk and enjoying the present moment for what it is. Going to that guy you like and kissing him out of the blue, or jumping on a table and start moving like Jagger. For one night you can say goodbye to the good girl/guy you are.

12. Get high in Amsterdam or in a country where weed is legal

I would strongly recommend doing this as a one-time thing, an experience and not an addiction. For me, smoking was never an option since I hate it, yet eating a brownie and letting of the control was an amazing thing. Laughing like crazy in the city of Amsterdam is the kind of bucket list experience. Not going to repeat it in the near future, yet I treasure the memory of it.

13. Spend all of your money on an exotic trip

Sometimes you need to do an arrogant thing and book that trip to that exotic place you’ve always dreamed of going. Maybe it was a city from Europe, or Las Vegas or even Bangkok. There is no better time to experience it than in your 20s.

14. Spend a whole months salary in one day

Getting that LV purse, festival tickets, second-hand car or a diamond necklace, sometimes you need to see what a month of hard work can bring you, even it that will make your landlord scream like crazy.

15. Spend a full week indoors watching TV Series and eating junk food

Forgetting what day it is and when you last had a decent meal can be easily achieved when looking at TV series, Friends, Sex and the City, Game of Thrones, Gossip Girl, whatever your drug of choice is, there is no better way to spend your holidays than with a lot of popcorn, cheap alcohol, and TV.

Sometimes you need to be young and stupid, it is OK to not have your sh*t together, it’s OK to fail. Almost everything is allowed during this period and you should make the most of it, don’t worry adulthood will slap you pretty soon, but if it’s not today then you need to make the next mistake on the list. Enjoy your life to the fullest, you deserve it!

About Love and Other Vices

In the era of fast communication and social media, love seems to have lost ground in the face of vanity and appearances. Somehow it becomes socially acceptable to trade happiness for the perfect shot, but at what cost?

John Milton: Vanity, definitely my favorite sin. –  The Devil’s Advocate

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Looking for love is hard, always has been, at least for most of us. I know there are a special few that were lucky enough to find the love of their life from the first shot, but for the majority of us, finding that special someone meant lots of heartaches. Unfortunately, the modern inventions aren’t working in our favor and from my perspective is only putting more pressure on us.

The idea of that power couple that always looks flawless in pictures with the matching outfit is hunting most of us. Clearly, we all want to be Brad and Angelina on the red carpet, but can we all be “picture-perfect couple”? Furthermore, we all saw what happened to Brangelina, so looking perfect didn’t work in their favor either.

In the era of Tinder and other matching applications; Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat, only to name a few social media ones, it is far more important to look happy, accomplished or stylish than to actually be happy. We have the perfect life displayed on our accounts, but how much of that is real and how much is just a “perfect” capture?

Clearly, we don’t want to show the world how our hair looks on a bad day or that we are suffering from a bad breakup, but the obsession with perfection made us distant and colder. It is as if we want to display only a side of ourselves, the pretty one, but we are afraid to let people in and see us for what we truly are, which is far from the perfection we present on social media.

Perhaps it is only my personal opinion, but to be fully accomplished means to have that special someone by your side, to share all the beautiful moments with him/her, to cheer up when you see their face and to want to make them happy. Most of these feelings will never be caught on camera and we should never even try to catch them, these should never leave the privacy of our houses/beds.

Many relationships these days end when they should have just begun, either because we formed an opinion of the other person when we browse their online profiles and that is far from the offline reality or because we don’t want to settle for something less than extraordinary when it comes to love. We want the picture-perfect couple idea, we want to be the true power couple that everyone says they are so beautiful and perfect together, but we forget that the idea of the power couple is not based on looks but on having each other back and helping each other grow.

Looks aren’t everything and vanity should never have priority over happiness, it is OK not to be perfect, nor to have the ideal house/car/boyfriend. What is not OK is to be unhappy and alone, because you set impossible to accomplish standards.

Life’s To Easy For You? Upgrade It By Dating @work!

Ever wondered what could you do to make your single life more miserable? Didn’t find it’s hard enough to be turned down by random people and wanted a daily reminder of a rejection? Or did you want to see your ex 9 hours a day? The answer to your prayers is here: date a colleague from work (or school – that will also do it).

Of course, he is cute and is making you laugh, especially in the morning when you are drinking your “so needed” coffee. Monday is making him blossom and all you want to hear from him are the magic words: “Will you go out with me?”. But is this worth the trouble?

A while ago I heard a myth that said the relationships that start between colleagues have more than 50% chances of ending in marriage. Well, I do not know who was the a*shole that said that, but I would really want to kick him, hard! I am not sure if he (I am 100% sure that is a he) was even in our time, but what I can tell you is that relationships that start between coworkers do not have higher chances. I believe the odds are kind-of the same as making a relation from Tinder or from a pickup bar work, but with a small difference: THE COMPLICATIONS.

There is an old saying “Don’t shit where you eat” and it cannot have a better appliance than in the matter of dating at work. Below you can find my 5 reasons why this is such a bad idea:

  • All eyes are on you

There is nothing juicier than gossip, and what better subject than the new romances from the office? Although you might think none is noticing, I can assure you that they do. The feminine intuition is working at full capacity and chances are, you are not the only one with the eyes on the prize. The loser will be the engine that runs the gossip machine and the others will also join for the entertainment.

  • It’s no longer your relation but your office’s relation

If you went out with him, everyone will assume it is on for the two of you. The jokes about you getting married, or tips about how awesome he is. You will see the smile on their faces as they pass you.

  • If it can go wrong, most likely it will

Murphy was definitely a wise man and the law from above will come to bite you on the behind when you are less expecting. Having to see your crush all the time (work & home) can bring a lot of pressure on the relationship, especially at the beginning so you might like to keep your happiness (and possibly later your sadness) to yourself. If you are getting into this, you must be 110% sure you are ready to settle down with this person.

  • It will affect your credibility

The fact that you mix work and pleasure will affect the way you are seen in the office. If you are dating someone that is higher than you in rank, you are seen as a gold digger, if that person is below you, then you are taking advantage of your position. If either of you is in a relationship, then you are both cheaters and so on. Even if you are on the same level and single, there will be a debate about who is better than who and if you two should be together.

  • If things go wrong, they will go all the way

Chances are that it might not work out for the two of you, and if that is the case, there will be a lot of drama to follow. First, you would see the pity in everyone’s eyes and they will not stop at only looking at you, they will want to comfort you with lots of remarks. You will also get to see him EVERY day and if you are on the same team, you would need to be professional about this (and let’s face it when PMS takes over its hard to be professional with guys that you didn’t sack, not to mention the other kind). And last but not least, you will get to see his new date and hear about his new adventure from all of your caring colleagues.

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Yes, we all heard of the happy end stories with people who met at work and now are living their happily ever after but don’t forget the other type of stories, the ones you most likely laugh when it happened in your office. So my advice to you would be to stay clear of dating at work, the possible complications are not worth the trouble. But if you don’t want to take my word on it, go find out on your own about the benefits this can bring you!

 

 

10 Reasons I Will Never Settle For a Corporate Guy

When it comes to dating I made a lot of mistakes but one that I will never repeat is to date a corporate guy. I know that they came with the stability of a 9 to 5 job and usually make a pretty decent income, but I for me they just won’t do anymore.

When I got my first job in a corporation I started to fall for my co-workers. Back then I was in a very unhappy relationship, so the perspective of a new guy was extremely tempting. 3 and a half years, after 3 very unfortunate “affairs” I was already avoiding going to the kitchen due to one of my exes and the 4th flour was prohibited due to another. 5 years later, a different city and a new corporation I made up a list of why I will never settle for a corporate guy.

1. The “politically correct” shit

In all the corporations that I’ve been, there is a strong culture of training people to act/ talk/think/argue in a politically correct way. I am a choleric type of person and when I see a man losing his temper but keeping his smile and giving you the nice response is just making me want to puke. I could translate this into being a fake b*tch and a man with this behavior is just a huge turnoff for me. Please take note that the higher his position is in the hierarchy the more visible that behavior is.

2.  The gossiping aka “the castration” of a man

When it comes to gossiping, men are way worse than women. They are mean, judgemental and have an eye for details. If you ever saw man gossiping then you know what I am talking about.

In the office there isn’t much entertainment, so what the others are doing / wearing/dating becomes a common subject. Not only that you have to deal with the bored women from the office, but you are also now getting “evaluated” by your male colleagues. If this is somehow accepted for teenage girls, but for a grown-up man (most likely in his 30is) it is just sickening. I see them in packs in the kitchen talking about the size of the secretary ass, or the fact that Miss S. lost or gained weight, the way M.’s hair is looking today or even the fact that T’s outfit is so old-fashioned. And yes, even the sweet or dork-is IT guy has an opinion about stuff like that.

3.  The “temperature” drama

The most common drama from the office is the TEMPERATURE. You would think that adults can find a way to work with a simple thing as this, especially during summer, but no. It is a fact that women have a lower body temperature (that is the reason you like to cuddle in his warm arms) and this you will think is the reason for the arguments, once again WRONG. The reason for the arguments is that some men are more sensitive than others when it comes to VENTILATION.

In the 5 years that I am celebrating this year of working in a company with more than 100 employees, I have seen some interesting complaints due to this issue. I got to see Mr. “I am in the heat season” argue with the Mr. “You should only touch me with a feather” and trust me is not that entertaining. Adult men, arguing like kids for something that can be fixed so easily (dress according to the temperature, use more layers, set the AC at a fixed value, set the ventilation to the minimum).

To this first world problem, we can also add the “sandwich thief”, the dirty sink or toilet, the food that is forgotten in the fridge until it comes to life, etc.

4. The team building

Once a year the company takes its employees on the most expected event: the team building. 2 days of drinking and hitting on basically anyone that is willing to go to bed with you. It is during those 2 days that you understand how some of the people got their job or raise. You understand why the secretary can be a bitch to you without anyone firing her, or why do so many kids get born in spring.

Apart from the big mating game, there is something way more disturbing. It is the perfect time to see the people who just love to kiss some ass, maybe that can get them a better job. So you get to see the pretty decent man that you actually enjoy working with, doing shots with the big boss and trying to look good.

5. The innocent flirting

When you stay 8 or more hours a day in the same space with the same people it is due to happen. Even if you are in a happy relationship you still get that warm feeling when the cute new guy talks to you or when the sexy boss looks you in the eye. It is up to you whether you take this to a higher level or not.

For the man in the office, there is something more to this, it is their reputation at stake so they want to be the alpha man and flirt with any woman that can give them the attention they are craving for. The innocent flirting turns into a competition where the best man will win. Of course, it is useless if none sees it, so the flirting is far from discrete or private. Most of the “alpha” man are married, probably with kids and somehow this is making them even more susceptible to this type of behavior.

6. The smart in a stupid way

I am working in an IT firm so I could say that my colleagues are definitely ranged as intelligent. But when it comes to dating I could probably say that they are the definition of “smart in a stupid way”. The behavior that annoys me the most is when he is only talking and being nice to you in private or outside the company, during the working hours he is pretty much running from you. He is hardly saying hello in the morning or talking to you when he is with his “squad”.

7. The car

Having an ordinary job, makes the man try to stand up from the crowd with at least one thing: THE CAR, his baby, his precious. For my colleagues, the goal is to have one of the following brands: BMW, Audi or Mercedes or, of course, anything that is above these brands. If you are driving anything under these, you are not hanging with the cool kids.

They meet and talk about why is their car the best, and if they have the same brand, then the subject is why a model better than another. Competition is extremely fierce so being a woman you don’t get to have an opinion. So what if you have a car, yours is just a toy, maybe you have the brand new model, still doesn’t matter because it is not like you know how to drive it.

Apart from being cut from the car talk, there is your position in the hierarchy of his life. For some man, you will always be less than his precious. Shania Twain said in “That don’t impress me much”: “You’re one of those guys who likes to shine his machine /You make me take off my shoes before you let me get in” and I cannot agree with her more.

8. The drinking night

Most of the people (redundant of the sex) have a drinking night, as we get older we get to be classier: start drinking quality wine, expensive cocktails and we tend to leave behind the old cheap places and trade them with nice ones, maybe a fancy restaurant or a cute pub. But there are always the corporate guys that meet after work for a drinking night. They go to that cheap bar where they still serve draft beer and drink until they are falling asleep on the counter. You can easily identify them by looking at the loud group that is making rude jokes. Even the boss sometimes joins because he likes to see that his team is getting on well, but usually, he is staying for a single beer and comes when the others are already wasted so that he can get them to talk.

9. The gym

Here I am not talking about having a healthy way of life and working out in order to keep yourself in shape. No, here I am talking about the guy that was either fat in the past and now he managed to lose weight or the guy that is constantly struggling with a weight problem. So you will ask yourself, what is my problem with them? Well, it is not the fact that they are going to the gym, it is the fact that he’s telling you that you need to go too, that you should eat less, or that you will get fat if you continue eating “that” (chocolate, your meal etc.).

If there is something that can get me mad in a second, then that is definitely when a man is telling me how should I live my life. I can understand ones struggle with weight, but you shouldn’t say shit like that to my face during lunch or even worst during a date.

10. The midlife crisis

I believe we are affected by aging. It is hard to see our parents age, our lives change, and wrinkles appear, but that is all part of human life. Our experiences are carved on our bodies and there is nothing wrong with that, every part of life comes with its ups and downs.

I cannot say why the midlife crisis is affecting more the corporate guys, but this is a known fact. You can spot the troubled one by looking at the guy that bought at the Christmas party the girl half his age, dressed as a hooker and is bragging about the oral that she has just given him (wtf man!). Or the guy that purchased the red second-hand convertible and, of course, now brag’s about how many women he now dates. The guy that just left his family to travel the world, the one that is always cheating on his wife/girlfriend.

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Of course, not all corporate guys are that bad, nor do all the above characteristics can be found merged in a single guy. I learned the hard way that you should not shit where you eat and definitely I want to save myself from the drama of dating a “troubled” corporate guy.