Using matching apps for dating is now a normal thing and if you didn’t hear about the new Tinder mania then you are definitely living in the wrong era. Here are a few things you have to expect.
So you made the big step and installed it on your phone, probably you looked at it for a while before opening it and creating a profile. Wisely chosen a few photos of yourself and wrote a really “deep” short bio. You are now ready for scooping around!
I knew about Tinder for a few years before actually using it, since I was suspicious about online dating. I was a lousy picker of man even when I could see them face to face, so I was definitely not ready to judge men only by looking at a picture. One day a friend of mine told me she created a profile because she suspected her boyfriend was cheating through the app so she searched for him (and found him). After breaking up, she wanted the distraction so she went on a couple of dates, furthermore, she told me I should give it a try since I was single for a while and I could use some dating experience.
Now here I was, in the same spot as you’ve probably been, trying to figure out how is this app working. At first, I declined all the guys, because I thought I can “save them for later”, but this had an easy fix: deleted the profile and created it again. Following are a few things you need to be aware of if you are using Tinder:
Be extra careful with the super like functionality.
One day, I was casually swiping left right after a major app update, when I accidentally super liked a really weird gangsta guy’s pic! The panic stroke me and, of course, there is no way that I could take it back. When he “accepted” me, I immediately blocked him and I’m still praying that I will never see him on the streets. You might want to be careful with that feature!
Nothing is what it seems.
We are all advertising our best version, so don’t expect your Tinder date to be as gorgeous as the pictures from his profile. You need to be open-minded about this and see your date as the MC Donald’s burger, it doesn’t look like the pictures but it still might be good.
One of my dates was a guy, who was so short that he would stare at my breasts when facing me, of course in the pictures he looked tall so I went wearing heels. Still we had fun and in the end, I’ve made a new friend.
D*ck pics are coming your way.
Many people use this for casual sex and will not be shy about it, make sure you don’t accept them on your other social media channels before being 100% sure that you are ok with them (Tinder chat doesn’t allow pictures so you are safe there).
One morning while I was at work preparing my coffee, I heard my phone ring. Nothing unusual since I was talking with this really cute guy from Tinder, that I liked enough to add on Facebook. I was with the group of coworkers with whom I usually meet in the mornings. Here I am with my girls talking to me, my coffee in one hand and phone in the other when all of a sudden: TADAM!!! D*ck pics, more of them, different angles and, of course, the comment that he was thinking of me that morning. From the shock, I spilled the coffee on my lovely white pants and my face was changing more colors than Barcelona’s Magic Fountain. All the girls were asking me what did I see to react like that and wanted to see as well( hell NO). As you could have probably guessed I did not appreciate the pictures, especially before coffee and I blocked the guy. To avoid this type of embarrassment, keep the conversation on Tinder until at least you had the first date.
Getting better with practice.
After a few dates, I was able to tell apart some different types of guys and learned to avoid the casual sex ones, the cheating on my spouse/girlfriend guy and so on. Another thing I’ve learned was that even the happiest relationship can be fake, I saw a lot of my happily married with kids acquaintances there. At first, you will feel the urge to tell about the infidelities, but unless it is a very close friend of yours, I suggest you let it go and don’t make it your business.
Having fun & making friends.
Half a year after using Tinder I started to enjoy going on random dates with random guys. Not making a fuss when things didn’t work out and, the best of all, making friends with my dates. For a single person, I think it was beneficial to go out and experience, I’ve learned a lot about myself in that period and it gained me a lot of confidence.
Using Tinder to date is not a bad or immoral thing to do, let go of your prejudices and learn to enjoy the company of people you don’t know. You will get to practice small talk a lot and learn how to advertise your qualities to the fullest. Don’t forget about your safety, so inform a friend that you are out and if things go badly tell her to call you to tell you that your cat is sick (I used that one and it worked :-p ). Enjoy!